Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are. – Beyonce Knowles
So you lost your job, or you don’t have money in your account or maybe you’ve messed up and not stepped up … I don’t care what your story is, staying down is not an option. You fall 1000 times, you make a 100 mistakes, it is up to you to right your course and try again. Yes YOU Can, right here, right now. How do I know that? Well because I am convinced there is no one on earth who was born to fail.
Let me define what failure means to me: Failure isn’t about not succeeding at something. Failure, in my mind only becomes your reality if you decide to make it so. When you stop fighting for a better you, a better state of being; when you accept defeat and stop trying, that is when you fail.
But that is not who you are. That is not who you should be.
I meet people often who are stuck in a rut because their ambitions and dreams have been trampled upon by others. People who have let conformity rule their lives because they are too afraid to shine. Dreamers that never gave themselves a chance. I have met people who were too afraid to speak up and stand up for themselves because they did not want to ‘rock the boat’, as a result others took advantage and stepped on them.
If you are one of those people that are down or that have been put down, please start today and reject the idea of staying down.
You should not live your life as a spectator at the sidelines too afraid of getting into the game. Embrace your power and jump right in. Falling is inevitable so welcome it. It is only by falling that you can develop the character you need, the wisdom you desire and the skills required to rise up to your full potential.
In your life’s journey, I am sure you have had many opportunities to see setbacks as failure; many occasions to give up because that was the easy thing to do. And maybe you did give in, but I urge you to reject defeat. Failure is not an option and I believe we only fail when we stop fighting for a better state of being. You are no quitter!
I want you to get angry.
Get angry at all the times you have let individuals beat down your resolve; the times you’ve let others step on your ambitions. Get really angry at the times you have allowed small minded thinkers project their own insecurities and fears onto you. Don’t sit silently in the corner just so everyone else can feel comfortable while your inner self is screaming for freedom; screaming to jump up and face life boldly. There is no fast rule that you must blend in. We are all different and our Lives were not meant to be easy. I urge you to refuse to take the path of least resistance.
The harder your battles the sweeter the feeling when you overcome them.
Believe in yourself and your abilities. Understand that the journey to your dreams will be uphill and you will make mistakes along the way but DO NOT succumb to your fears and settle for less. You are a winner. Don’t hide your light underneath a calabash, instead put it on top of the table so it can light up the room. As you journey forward, I hope you accept falling down as part of the process and be ready to rise back up each time you fall.
Do not cower in the face of rejection. Do not give up on yourself.
Rising up is hard. Building dreams is hard work. Creating a future for yourself and those that are important to you will take sweat and all you have in you to make it happen. But remember that every time you work at your dream – every time you break a sweat, when the resistance feels overwhelming, your determination will carry you through. Do not let others define who you are or how committed you are to succeed. You know who you are. You know what you are capable of. It’s your dream you are fighting for and If you want it bad enough then you will do what it takes to make it happen. Let this be the day you say “Yes I Can” and then do every thing in your power to get to your dream. Shut out the noise, don’t compare yourself to any one else. Distance yourself from the short sighted people who hold you back. The only person you should be focused on, the only dream you should be chasing, is yours.
If you can’t bet on yourself, if you can’t stick with the plan when it is tough to do so, where else will the Will come from for you to try? So stop putting yourself down and believe in you for a change. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. You have to believe you can and then go for it with all you got.